This lifestyle sucks!! Polygyny sucks!! I tried doing a search on those two words in hopes of finding some kind of comfort. Not a whole lot out there for first wives going through this insane way of life. Where do I find comfort? Is it by remembering Allah? I find that when I focus on Allah, my hurt is intensified because I'm focused on the problem even more. Don't get me wrong, I do have faith that only Allah can bring me out of this oppressive state that I'm, but comforter? Am I praying all wrong? Perhaps what I'm looking for is some temporary comfort. Yes, that must be it. Believe it or not Ebay has been a great friend of mine during the first few weeks of finding out that my husband married another woman behind my back. Thanks Ebay!